Shout out to all the people who don't have the "perfect family" and who are struggling with that during the festive season.
You are not alone and you can do this!
It's the second Christmas after I made the decision to "cut off my parents".
And yes, it's hard, but the alternative would be much harder.
This year, instead of the run-up to Christmas being filled with stress, arguments and passive-aggressive tension, I will be in a loving, caring and supportive environment.
Instead of family fights and slagging off the cook, I will be having a peaceful dinner with my loved ones.
Instead of receiving gifts for another year of having been a "good girl" who kept quiet, I will be spending quality time with people who I can be myself around.
After 18 months of not having spoken to my family, I can say that it helped me understand the meaning of unconditional love and redefine the meaning of family.
To me, family is the people who love me for who I am.
Because, as the closing sentence of a recent BBC article about the rise of family estrangement (by choice) said:
“The whole ‘blood is thicker than water’ - I mean, that's great if you have a cool family, but if you're saddled with toxic people, it's just not doable.”
Please click the link below to read the original BBC article about Family Estrangement I was referring to: